Hot Girls and Cool Guys!

I had a chat about the thought processes of guys and gals the other day with my friend Akshay. We used to have a lot of these random ramblings over a cup of tea in the college canteen. We still do communicate online and it feels just like old times.

He mentioned that most girls ask about their appearance to their boy friends at some point during the relationship. They want to know if they look better, have become fat or added weight.

The poor guy doesn't know that he is walking into a trap when faced with this seemingly innocent query. Guys, being simplistic in nature, respond with the utmost sincerity. The sensitive girl in question harbours this thought everytime she interacts with this honest fellow.

This is where I feel a little bit of white lies does no harm. Guys have to learn to tread carefully on this one if they value their relationship.

I figured out exactly how the male mind works only after living with one of the typical specimens. I realized that the amazing facet of the male psyche is it's simplicity.

The female mind is always wandering into the ifs and buts of an issue. The male mind is binary. They see only the two natural possibilities. They can't fathom the intricacies of probabilities and consequences like the females.

There was a time when I expected my husband to infer my likes and dislikes without expressing them verbally. I thought that he would figure out what I wanted through the many perceivable signs. The funny part is that he could never understand what I was trying to convey.

I found out that communicating with him just required discussing openly. He is not tuned to analyzing and deliberating my actions. It is just not his style of functioning.

He would understand more if I could just blurt out my thoughts without beating around the bush. This straight-forward approach saved us a lot of misunderstandings in the future.

I consider this to be the fundamental difference between the two genders. Girls tend to think too much and make a mountain out of a mole hill. Guys, on the otherhand, ignore even the mountains of life.

Both the attitudes are extreme. Following the middle ground is the key to a path of compromise.